I find that although change is possible, it is quite rare. Most people do not want to change because it is difficult and they are often unaware of their repugnant behavior. They are not watching themselves as others are. Also, it is easier to blame someone else for unacceptable actions and words because it is self fulfilling. So if it is someone else's fault, you could not have prevented it, meaning you will repeat the mistake. There are times when it makes sense to blame others. Few people have the self discipline to change. In commited relationships where one person hurts another, there are often promises of change, but it rarely happens. They agree to it so the other person will stay in the relationship. There is a reason why criminals are not allowed in certain professions - because the best way to predict a person's behavior is by their past encounters. [THUMBUP]
First borns are actually very healthy mentally. If you did research on suicide rates, it would be mostly SECOND borns, my guess is if you did one on child abuse the adult would be a fourth born, and third borns are the rebellious ones who get into trouble. First borns are the most functioning people. Do you actually know any lol?
First borns are actually very healthy mentally. If you did research on suicide rates, it would be mostly SECOND borns, my guess is if you did one on child abuse the adult would be a fourth born, and third borns are the rebellious ones who get into trouble. First borns are the most functioning people. Do you actually know any lol?
Actually this does me a lot of good. My guess is that you are a second born and you have a low self esteem so you feel the need to criticize others? Cliff's ideas have helped me understand myself and others and improve relationships. Maybe if you would listen instead of criticize you could benefit too!
You described me as being the super intelligent third born, thanks. I am my parent's first child and I have one younger sister - 3 years younger. I think that in general, the oldest child in the family does outperform younger siblings because they do receive more praise, pressure, and attention. A super intelligent third born must learn to be assertive and stand up for her rights while at the same time understand a younger sibling. You are right - many people have told me that I surprised them with how intelligent I was. They didn't think that I was intelligent when they first met me, but later they do. People do think I lack common sense, but am very book smart. I will let them think that! [SMILE]
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